MALE DOMESTIC ABUSE SERVICES COMING TO HERTFORD – WISE GUYS PROGRAMME.
As leaders in the field of domestic abuse services for women, Future Living Hertford is adding to its already significant and successful programmes supporting survivors of domestic violence and abuse. In addition to its Monica programme, a new programme, Wise Guys is launching in the Autumn to support men who have experienced domestic abuse and violence.
Domestic abuse towards men is happening. It’s happening right now. And we need to talk about it. Let’s stop shuffling this issue under the carpet and let’s start helping these men who feel they have nowhere to turn.
Future Living have been undertaking research in collaboration with a psychologist, the public, stakeholders and their existing clients over some months to inform the design of a programme supporting men. What are their needs? Who do they tell? Are they embarrassed by admitting it? Where do they go to get help? What type of help is it? What does it cost? There are many questions around this topic.
Future Living have researched the answers to these questions but are asking for the help of men who have experienced such abuse. Would you be willing to talk to someone at Future Living? Would you be interested in completing an online survey? Would you come forward and enrol on the course? What would be your needs? All questions that they are endeavouring to answer with your help. With help from men Future Living can and will design a service that is tailored to your needs.
A very short survey has been designed to inform the project and Future Living welcomes any men to complete. This only takes a few minutes and is completely anonymous – men won’t have to give any of their personal details.
But what they will be giving is an important insight into what kind of service they feel they would really benefit from. Future Living will then take away this information from all survey responses and design a tailored course to meet the needs and encompass the requests of every respondent.
This new course will therefore be wholly informed by the men living in Hertfordshire and centres around the importance of peer support. It has already been evidenced that sharing in a safe environment can lead to positive outcomes for both the sharer and those listening, and Future Living want to create an environment for peers to meet and talk.
The group work is designed to build trusted relationships with like-minded men in a safe environment and learn the skills necessary for men to move forward and flourish in life.
Some people may be suffering from anxiety and depression which is common in this situation, some may have been or are misusing substances to hide from the pain they feel; Future Living are experts in the field of addiction recovery and work on this topic will be included in their new project.
This exciting new programme will be free to access – in addition there will be weekly personal counselling available for each client at affordable rates. The service is also self-referring. There will be no need for men to go to their doctor first, or to be already in receipt of support from mental health services. They can just telephone and arrange an assessment and enrol themselves. Or they can register their interest in the survey.
All too often men are tasked by society to keep up appearances. Future Living wants to break down these taboos and get to the heart of the matter. Helping men to move forward in their lives with dignity, strength and hope.
If you feel you can contribute any information, which will be treated in strictest confidence (you don’t have to give your name or contact details) but know that you will be helping others in gaining the help you and they need to overcome your trauma.
Contact Wise Guys at Future Living Hertford, Vale House, 43 Cowbridge, Hertford. SG14 1PN
Tel: 01992 537344 Registered charity number 1155145